When we fail at reaching a goal,<\/p>\n\n\n\n
it\u2019s often because we\u2019ve been blind-sided by the detail we knew existed,<\/p>\n\n\n\n
but stopped paying attention to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Rather than having got too excited by the goal itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This becomes obvious when you listen to the stories people tell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stories about the change they wish to bring in their life,<\/p>\n\n\n\n
their career,<\/p>\n\n\n\n
and the details they give.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
On how they hope things will unfold between now and then, for instance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cFirst, I\u2019ll ____ (fill the blank).\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Then, I\u2019ll be able to ____ (fill the blank again).\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And if all goes well, as I hope it will, then _____ (fill this other blank).\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
At some point in their story, though,<\/p>\n\n\n\n
they\u2019ll talk about why they haven\u2019t started doing \u201cthat thing they know they should do\u201d yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To make this change happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is also when these new stories start to sound old.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Like other tales you\u2019ve heard before.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Of someone who had a goal for a while.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Like “going to college” or “getting a promotion at work”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Something that seemed just a little bit out of her league,<\/p>\n\n\n\n
but that she still wanted to achieve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Until her bubble burst,<\/p>\n\n\n\n
when she learned what needed to be done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cIt looked so hard\u2026 I wish it didn\u2019t\u201d is the kind of comment you often hear at the end of these stories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here\u2019s how Bernadette Jiwa [1] puts this \u201chearable\u201d deja-vu:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWe all want the sequence, the step-by-step, the foolproof, guaranteed-not-to-fail method. (…)<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n and guaranteed to succeed\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n is that it makes us blind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of using what we already have, for skills and knowledge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of learning something new about a topic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of discovering we\u2019re capable of doing something we never thought we had the talent for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n That any success gets easier to repeat only once we\u2019ve learned \u201chow to make it happen\u201d the hard way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Until we\u2019re reminded of it, whenever we fail at (any) goal that got us excited. – – References – – – – When we fail at reaching a goal,
The problem with only wishing achieving a goal was easy\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Blind to a couple opportunities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It also makes us blind to a fact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A detail about life you and I know but tend to stop giving attention to, over time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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[1] Bernadette Jiwa \u2013 The First Step In Setting A Marketing Campaign ( https:\/\/thestoryoftelling.com\/first-step-building-marketing-campaign\/ )<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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